It’s Tough Being Ebony on Tinder, But I’m Not Giving Up

It’s Tough Being Ebony on Tinder, But I’m Not Giving Up

One match’s greeting was simply “BLM. ”

Sumiko Wilson 13, 2019 february

(Illustration: Melissa Falconer)

I got deeper and deeper into his social media as I waited for my Tinder date to arrive. Sitting during the club of a Toronto that is dimly-lit restaurant we swiped through his Facebook pictures to visit a) if any one of their girlfriends had mysteriously died or vanished a la Joe Goldberg or b) if some of them had been Black.

It was my first date since my first breakup that is big.

Before my ex and I also started our two-year courtship, I bounced from situationship to situationship without any genuine attachment to anybody I happened to be dating. Since I’m nevertheless at the dawn of my twenties, I didn’t have trouble with that. But after dropping in deep love with my ex, we experienced the strength of my first severe relationship and endured the pain sensation of my very first breakup. If we had parted methods, we longed for one thing casual again. So fleetingly I downloaded Tinder after we broke up.

When i eventually got to swiping, I happened to be reminded that casual didn’t suggest simple. I experienced grown accustomed to the convenience to be boo’d up; the rhythm and routine that is included with knowing some body very well. Obviously, being on a romantic date with a complete stranger, such as the one I became looking forward to at that downtown restaurant, had been a modification.

A regular-shmegular Bay Street bro, sauntered in, my social media research confirmed that he had never dated a Black girl before by the time my tinder date. (Whether or perhaps not their ex ended up being dead had been inconclusive, but we digressed. )

My suspicions apart, we talked about our upbringings that are respective passions, first jobs and final relationships over cocktails. (more…)